Thursday, November 13, 2008

Blind as a Bat AKA Halloween '08

Forgive my late blogging of the event of the season...Halloween, that is. So much has happened, not the least of which is Zelda learning to use her long white cane! Halloween was an action-packed, fun-filled week starting with the annual practice Trick or Treating at the Clarksville home of our friend, Margaret. The twins enjoy it more and more each year - apple bobbing, musical instruments, an A capella group, lots of kids and of course the T-or-T activity. We were the Rock n' Roll Vampire Family with Creed & Zelda as our little bats. Another evening took us out to Kat & Don's for bales of hay, tractor riding and pumpkin carving and then off to a Biscuit Brothers concert at Central Market. The following night was Halloween and the twins went out to the 'burbs for the T-or-T marathon evening with the cousins while Mom & Dad had an evening at the Black Ball. 18 houses later...Creed & Zelda had a sound sleep and we picked them up the next day.

So, at the end of October, Zelda received her very first long white cane courtesy of the NFB and is adapting quite nicely. There is a bit of controversy over the age of when a young child should begin to use a cane. The NFB basically promotes the sooner the better and I am in their camp. It promotes independence and confidence from an early age. She is so very petite and of course, elicits a lot of stares, comments and questions as she walks down the street, through the grocery store, or on the playground of Ecole. I like to tell her to "Tap gently" as she maneuvers her cane along the sidewalk. She was already a fearless and expert traveler and her instant attraction to her cane has only added to her desire to be on the go! People, as always, are crazy and inquisitive, but also quite ignorant: "Is that her Halloween costume?" "Is she practicing to be blind?" "Hey, watch out for the little girl with the stick!" Some just stare with the looks of sympathy and then hug their own children as if to protect them from a contagious illness. Others go out of their way to avoid getting in her way. Each day, I try to take the time to explain these questions and comments to her. Creed is also getting pretty good at fielding the comments, he responds "That's Zelda's cane!" He seems proud of her and he wants one, too.

Anyway, it was actually a coincidence that I chose bat costumes for the twins for Halloween. It got me thinking about comments, songs and such...the expression "Blind as a bat" is actually quite fitting because Z really does seem to exude an innate sense of radar or echolocation. But how will Zelda feel about the song "Three blind mice"? And then there was a joke about a blind race car driver a few weeks ago on Saturday Night Live. Evan & I looked at each other and asked, "Should we be offended?" ...Will Zelda develop a keen sense of humour and accept these aspects of our society with courage and grace? We can only hope ...stay tuned.


kayla said...

Such a great site I will be back i have a 11 month old son that takes alot of my time. I wish you the best, you have great posts from what i have read

Megg said...

I think with you as a mother, she will have a great sense of humor about things like jokes on tv and such. I can relate and admit that often times I wonder if I should be offended as well. its hard

How amazing have such a little supporter... excited about Zeldas cane!!

Karla said...

Ok she is so cute I can hardly stand it. Is there a picture of all of you dressed up?

I have been thinking of you the past couple of days, H&M has their Comme des Garcons special collection out. if you go to their website and see something you like (besides the coat dress, which sold out in milliseconds) let me know and I can send it to you. The tail coat is especially nice (I got that plus the white ruffly sleeved "puffy shirts", the polka dot cardie and the simple grey/black/navy sweater.) the bottoms in the collection are a bit iffy, there is one pleated deconstructed skirt that looks good on NO one.

kdg said...

Hi Gail,
I love to read your blog. I can tell you from my own experience that Z will struggle at times but that she will be just fine overall. You and Evan are doing such an amazing job of enabling her to become a happy, healthy person. I'm still hoping to meet you sometime when we are down your way. I think Camryn, Creed, and Zelda would really hit it off!
Kelly and Camryn